November 21, 2013
Heading off to college and leaving a significant other behind can be really stressful - especially if you are going to be in two different cities (or states!). Deciding whether to continue dating can be a discouraging and overwhelming experience.
As in most cases, some relationships were meant to last forever and others are merely temporary. Here are some guidelines for managing a long-distance romance.
Be Open and Honest
Before you part ways, be upfront about the fact that you will no...
October 20, 2013
During my first year of college, if I had been asked whether or not I wanted to study abroad, my answer would have been no. In my second year of college, you probably would have gotten the same answer. By my third year of college, and rather late in my academic career, I realized that I had developed a passion for the Spanish language. As a non-major, the best option for continuing my education was to study abroad. I researched programs, applied, and was accepted to the Valencia program here at UVa. In July of 2013, I took the 7-hour flight to Valencia, Spain.
So, here it is, what I...
September 18, 2013
This is the year when “back to school” became back to responsibility. This is how it works: back to responsibility means back to worrying, back to worrying means an avalanche of anxiety about future job prospects, future apartment searches, future relationships. This is the state of things. This is what it means to be twenty-one and not blissfully ignorant of the fact that this is my last first day of school, my last chance to run back to mom and dad and say, “Wait! Help! 911, this is an emergency: this is 16 years of education, 21 years of life all leading up to THIS MOMENT?” A cluttered...
September 09, 2013
As part of the University of Virginia community where Morgan Harrington lost her life in 2009, we took note long ago that her mother, Gil Harrington, is an exceptional woman. Her unflinching willingness to deal openly with the tragedy of her daughter's murder has sometimes disarmed observers. After meeting her, though, it becomes clear that her clarity is accompanied by a worldview both deep and farseeing. In a recent wide ranging talk at her home, she spoke about how she cultivates this authenticity in the face of the worst that can befall a parent.
September 09, 2013
Three months after racing through the final hurdles of grad school, applying for and securing jobs, moving in with my then-boyfriend, and starting a so-called "exciting" adult life, time all of a sudden slackened to a halt. I was staring across the kitchen table from someone whom I had loved. Someone whom I had fallen out of love with, whom I tried so hard to fall back in love with, and whom I was now looking at with an unblinking, slightly unfocused stare. I had just attempted to bake “healthy” French fries using the broiler in my oven, and the kitchen held the sickeningly-sweet smell of...
September 09, 2013
They didn't grow up in the same area, go to the same undergraduate or graduate schools, and they don't even live in the same town now.
But they are allies in ways that perhaps only women can be. During...
February 20, 2013
What does it mean to be black at U.Va? This the kind of question that immediately raises concern, that provokes thoughts, and that spawns long necessary-yet-draining discussions about race. The problem with this question, or at least one of the problems, is that it assumes that there is one black identity, one black experience. This is not at all black-specific; the same issues rise when we question what it means to be a woman here, to be gay here, to be African here, to be a graduate student here, to be an athlete here... the list expands exponentially into space, ending, I assume, with...
February 13, 2013
It is often said that you meet your best friends in college - your future bridesmaids, the godmothers to your future children, the ones you will meet up with time and again post graduation for cocktails and to relive the wild days of staying up way too late, partying way too much, and having more fun than your high school self ever thought possible. If you have found this not to be your experience in college, I sincerely hope that you find this kind of friend-love somewhere in your future. I am fortunate because I have found this kind of bond in the past three years I have been at the...
January 24, 2013
I went home, I conquered home, and then I came back... home. I think figuring out what home means is difficult; difficult because it changes frequently and completely, and is entirely dependent on what I'm categorizing as where I live. Is your home:
1. Where you live now?: in which case, my home is Charlottesville. I miss it when I'm gone, I'm comfortable when I'm here. But surely that isn't enough? Is your home:
2. Where you grew up: so my homes would be California, and The Gambia. Making more sense now, I have a lot of formative memories...
January 24, 2013
You think of your job and you think of all the other people you know doing more interesting things with their lives. You feel guilty about griping when you know plenty of capable friends who are still unemployed. It could've been you.
You deal with never seeing people you saw every day, and you're consequently trying to figure out how to recalibrate your social life with the surprisingly plentiful...
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