It wasn’t taking my fifth “Am I Gay?” quiz. It wasn’t being disappointed when I would get “You Are Straight!” as a result. It wasn’t my constantly looking up “lesbian love stories.” It was a Reddit thread, and the compulsory heterosexuality master doc I found there, that made me say “oh shit.”
Compulsory heterosexuality (“comp het”) is very difficult to explain because everyone experiences it differently. What is the same, however, is that comp het affects everyone; even those who identify as heterosexual. I encourage you to read through (or even take a quick glance at) this doc. The Wikipedia definition is “compulsory heterosexuality is the idea that heterosexuality is assumed and enforced by a patriarchal and heteronormative society.” I can only write about my personal “comp het” experience, and the things that made me say “oh shit,” and maybe you will find your “oh shit” moments too.
IT WAS A REDDIT THREAD, AND THE COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITY MASTER DOC I FOUND THERE, THAT MADE ME SAY “OH SHIT.”